edgywords asked:
Hi, Mr. Gaiman.
My best friend has recently left this world. I am (naturally) quite upset about it. His name was Nick. He was only 19. We had a lot of plans we won’t get to.
I apologize for sending you a message with this level of vulnerability, but as Good Omens is very much a comfort to me, and I have thrown self-awareness to the wind as a grieving person does, might I ask what advice Crowley or Aziraphale would give for times like this?
neil-gaiman answered:
They would tell you what I would tell you, which is to grieve, and let yourself grieve. And then, when your life returns, not to feel guilty for having a life, and not to feel bad about feeling bad either. Be there, and remember your friend.
I always tell people who are grieving to take care of themselves.
Because when I am deep in grief, it always feels like the hardest thing to do is to put myself first.
However, it’s what the person I am grieving would want me to do.
Honor that love and the pain it brings you by honoring yourself. Don’t forget to eat. Get enough sleep. If you have the energy, go take a shower and brush your teeth. Do those little things that will make you cry because they’re the little things the person you miss will never do again.
It’s okay to keep living when someone you love is dead. <3
So I find this advice to be beautiful, and perfect. When I was 19 a friend of mine was murdered, and this is the sort of advice that saw me through that dark time.
When I can, when someone I know has lost someone close and important, I send food. A hamper, or just meals from a nearby restaurant . Because I know that when death happens, the last thing most people want to do is prepare food or think about food and the thing all of them have to do is eat. And it's a practical thing I can do.




















